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9 Ways Bondage Sex Gear Can Fail During Enthusiastic Use

Bondage sex gear comes in a huge variety of forms, materials and qualities. But sometimes these items break at the wrong time, which can leave you embarrassed, injured or turned off.

BDSM equipment can range from the harmlessly fluffy restraints sold on Amazon, to the hard-core leather fetish gear you can only find at specialty lifestyle stores. With any sort of kinky bedroom play, there is a risk of failure or breakage – especially if any items are misused.

It’s great to try new things and express your creative side with the sex toys you have bought. It’s also nice to be aware of the potential dangers involved when you try to use some toys in ways they may not have been intended for. Power play is one fetish niche where failure happens fairly often.

That’s why in today’s post we are going to look at BDSM sex toys and 9 common instances where failure, breakage and injury have resulted when two people haven’t taken enough care.

Woman left in bondage sex toys
Woman left in bondage sex toys

Warning! 9 BDSM Toys That Break or Harm

When people fall in love with their bondage sex gear, boy do they go for it. Of all the types of sex toys available, it’s fetish gear in the bondage niche that is replaced most often, due to the nature of the games people play.

Often, this is not because they are doing anything overtly rough – rather it’s because they don’t have a strong enough understanding of the gear they have purchased. It wears. It snaps. It tears. It breaks! Here’s how.

#1: Fluffy Handcuffs

This is the first step many couples that are curious about bondage sex gear take. They buy a pair of harmless, fluffy handcuffs! If they came with directions, which they sometimes don’t – the cuffs would say ‘for aesthetic use only.’

In other words, don’t expect these cuffs to keep anyone secured to anything. These are for visual arousal and light restraint, but pull too hard and the fragile cold chains will snap. Never use these in any sort of play where real restraint is required to prevent injury.

If you are searching for something a little more practical, metal handcuffs will replace your weak bondage sex gear for a better restraint experience.

These are usually stronger, for intermediate users, and can be locked with a key. They also have a safety release, for emergencies.

Woman in fluffy handcuffs bondage sex toys
Fluffy handcuffs bondage sex toys

#2: Satin, Cuff and Tape Restraints

Satin restraints are a beginner’s style of bondage sex gear – with a little more punch than fluffy handcuffs, because they actually do restrain. These commonly tear at the spot you thread the satin tie through – though knots generally solve this issue. Stick to light play with these restraints.

Learn how to do a quick-release knot from Wikihow here.

Cuff restraints are considered the most practical and secure – which is why they are used by advanced bondage practitioners. But these also come with a warning for use.

Cuffs are perhaps a little too good at locking an individual in place, which means they are totally reliant on their significant other for freedom. There are no handy release safety features. With bondage sex gear of this nature, make sure you have a safe word and trust your partner.

Then there is bondage tape, a popular choice because it sticks to itself and not your skin. This is the most dangerous of the restraints, as once on – it can quickly limit your circulation, creating numbness and tingling in your limbs.

Any loss of circulation can cause harm, so if you are going to experiment with this tape make sure you always have a pair of scissors handy for quick release. In the moment, the restraint might be fun, but what isn’t fun is nerve damage in your legs or arms!

#3: Good Vibrations Gone Bad

Once you have a firm handle on the dangers involved in using restraints, you can move onto the sex toys that make up your bondage sex gear kit. A critical toy is of course, the vibrator – for teasing sessions that enhance desire and arousal.

What you don’t know about vibrators is that if they are used incorrectly, they can cause numbness in the exact areas you don’t want to be going numb.

According to a Berkeley Wellness post, one in five women who have used a vibrator, have experienced unpleasant side effects like numbness!

As a safety precaution don’t hold the vibrator in one spot, move it back and forth – and don’t overuse it either. Make use of those different vibration patterns, those help too.

Vibrating bondage sex toys can cause numbness
Vibrating bondage sex toys can cause numbness

#4: Electro Stimulation Kits

For the couple that has entered the world of electro-stimulation, there are some things to look out for. As a part of the more extreme bondage sex gear, electro stims have a poor reputation – but they can be harmless if you use them for stimulation, not pain.

As a rule, you should never use these devices while dehydrated, fatigued or when you aren’t feeling well. Make sure that you moisturize your skin for better sensations, as applying the electrodes to dry skin may result in sharp ‘shocks.’

At the same time be careful of placing small electrodes on a single area, the concentration will make the impact more intense. Never, and we mean never, use these toys above the waist!

For a more complete guide to electro-stim devices Medical Daily has an excellent post.

#5: Temperature Play

Every BDSM couple wants to explore temperature play, which means adding glass dildos and plugs to your bondage sex gear. These can be used during foreplay, as an anal sex toy or as a strap on companion.

It also means understanding the dangers of other temperature tools, like hot wax or ice. Remember that light response is required with these for skin on skin neuroreceptor arousal.

Malfunctions include burns, scalding and tissue damage – and in extreme cases, skin tearing due to cold exposure to home-made ice dildos. Always test the temperature before application, keeping in mind that genitals tend to be more sensitive than general skin!

Never use couples bondage sex gear that was not made for temperature play, as it can cause damage. Beeswax for example, only melts at a high heat and will burn you if you try to use it.

#6: Bondage Lingerie

The more you get into bondage, the more outfits you and your significant other will want to own. Leather and latex are the most popular, but because of the nature of these items – they can often result in injury, or can tear during use.

This is because bondage sex gear contains metal loops, studs, hooks and other protrusions that you’ll want to watch out for.

If the metal loops are used to carry weight, make sure you treat the leather so that it doesn’t weaken over time, crack and break one day.

#7: Male Chastity Device

If you and your significant other are into swapping power roles, or enjoy the female dominant form of BDSM, you may be using a male chastity device.

While these devices lock the man’s bits away so that they can’t be used – there are some potential, and little known risks when using this bondage sex gear.

Over a long period of time, compression around the scrotum can cause tissue damage and may result in erectile dysfunction, says Dr King, a Urologist working in Washington State. He advises users to only wear these devices for 4-6 hours at a time, unless you invest in one with a custom fit.

Male bondage sex toys include chastity malfunctions
Male bondage sex toys include chastity malfunctions

#8: Spanking With Devices

Everyone gets a little carried away in the moment sometimes, but if that is likely to happen you should prepare for it. That means being selective with the spanking device you buy – whether you choose padded paddles, whips or rulers.

Some people find they are more aroused by the sound of spanking than by the visual redness that results. If you are one of these people, you have to be careful because inflicting injury can be easy.

Bondage sex gear should never welt, bruise or seriously injure your significant other!

#9: Ticklers

You may be wondering how ticklers could possibly malfunction during use! Interestingly, because of how these sex toys are made, they are some of the most likely never to be washed.

Those delicate feathers can become a breeding ground for all sorts of dangerous bacteria, which can keep re-infecting you or your significant other. That’s a serious bondage sex gear fail!

With fairly regular use, you will need to replace your tickler every 6 months to keep it clean. Never store it with other toys or lingerie, keep it completely separate.

Common Sense When Engaged in BDSM

There are negatives with every toy you buy if you never learn how to use it correctly. With a fetish like BDSM, gear is regularly pushed to its maximum limit. Always put the comfort and safety of your significant other first, to prevent injury or harm.

Whether this means cleaning your toys more often, treating them so that they don’t break or using them wisely and with caution – you are responsible for preventing failure during use.
Before use always check that your bondage sex gear is primed, and try not to use anything risky when you are under the influence – or things can quickly go wrong! BDSM sex toys are fun and carry an element of danger, but they don’t have to be dangerous.

Can I get hurt during bondage play? There are many ways that failing gear can result in injury. But this usually because of human error, not because the sex toys themselves are dangerous. With a bit of common sense and responsibility, you can enjoy BDSM without any risks at all!

What Do You Think?

Thank you for reading our post, we hope you found it instructive! In the spirit of our mission we have one more thing to ask you. Which bondage sex toy has become your favourite and why?

Be bold, and leave your comment below.

About Jade

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I am the Operations Manager at Désir & feel so privileged to have been a part of this adventure from the very beginning, conceptualizing and building our amazing lingerie and sex toy ranges. Having a Diploma in Business Analysis my aim is to assist in the streamlining of processes, thereby ensuring maximum efficiency, remaining relevant by keeping up to date with trends, and producing statistical analysis in order to meet our consumer’s needs.

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